Control Dramas: 4 Relationship Pitfalls to Avoid – by Tana Hoy

Relationships have always had a special place in my heart. I’ve always been fascinated by the beautiful exchange of energy that happens between two people who are in love. As a clairvoyant, I consider it a privilege to be able to see such beauty.

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Control Dramas

However, love can take many different forms, as shown in the dynamics of the two people in a relationship. There are some relationships, which are very harmonic, but there are also others which are borderline chaotic.

A relationship is founded on a harmonious exchange of energy between two partners. In an ideal relationship, the energy exchange is smooth and clean, with both parties giving and receiving the same amount of energy from each other.

There are instances however, when this does not happen. Sometimes, one party becomes dominant, resulting in one feeding off of the energy of the other.

Control Dramas And Their Different Forms

Control dramas are first mentioned in James Redfield’s The Celestine Prophecy. In this book, it is stated that control dramas are the means for people to get energy from their partners. They are negative actions, and reactions, that elicit a forced response from a person.

There are 4 forms of control dramas. They are:

  • The Intimidator – Intimidators are people who use aggression to elicit an act of submission from their partners. An example of this would be a woman who is frequently talked down to, being forced into a type of mental and emotional submission by her partner. People who get stuck with Intimidators usually live in fear, losing their self-respect in the process.
  • The Interrogator – Interrogators are people who constantly nag to the point where their partners would just about admit to anything they are accusing them of. An example of this would be a man who always gets nagged by his wife about their financial situation, and who eventually starts to believe in the notion that he will never be an adequate husband. People who fall in this control drama usually end up losing their confidence.
  • The Poor Me – This control drama involves a person projecting him or herself as someone who is helpless, and who is always in need of constant care and attention. They act the part of someone vulnerable, so as to trigger pity from their partners. Many people who are overly attached to their partners fall in this category.
  • The Aloof One – These are the people who shut down when a confrontation happens. They do not attempt to explain themselves, and by keeping quiet, they force their partners to win them over. Men fall into this pattern of control drama frequently, especially when faced with a woman who is an Interrogator.

How Do You Get Out Of A Control Drama?

If you find yourself in a relationship with a person that exhibits any behavior similar to the examples given above, then try your best to not fall into their dramas. A good way to do this would be to not react in the way they are provoking you to.

For example, if your partner is an Interrogator, then answer calmly and firmly, but put your foot down after you have addressed your partner’s concern. If your partner is playing the part of the Poor Me, then be lively, and lift their spirits by being extremely positive.

The key to breaking the control dramas is to develop the ability to resist falling into their traps. As long as you are able to react in a positive way, then you will not fall victim to any of these relationship pitfalls.

It’s really all about being aware of the signs, and being strong enough to resist the temptation of just going along.

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One Response

  1. Frost says:

    I behave this way in several categories and would like to stop. I’d like to have better relationships with people. The Celestine Prophecy was a great book. I haven’t read it in a million years.

    Warm Blessing,

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