STOP Attracting Undesirable Partners Once and For All
Are you aware of how manifestation can be a double-edged sword, so to speak?
Many people equate manifestation with only positive things.
However, the fact is, you can be manifesting negativity and misery in your life, which could be why you haven’t succeeded in knowing how to find true love.
Are You Putting Yourself in a Trap?
I recall a psychic reading I gave a few months back. My client was frantic and nearly at the point of self-hate, because no matter what she did, it had been one relationship failure after the other.
She had been at the receiving end of nasty comments from so-called friends. These “friends” had said something along the lines of “You have been in several relationships already. Yet, all of them were failures. It must be you at fault, because it’s impossible for all your ex-partners to be the one at fault, right?”
She took such comments to heart, which is why self-hate was on its way to taking root.
Fortunately, such a thing never pushed through, because she finally understood why several bad relationships kept on happening.
Those relationships didn’t happen by chance. She had manifested failed relationships, instead of a happy and successful lovelife.
She had been in a self-created trap of failure, which is why the most undesirable partners were the ones who kept coming into her life, and bringing pain along with them.
What Do You Usually Think of?
As you live your life from day to day, have you ever stopped to think about the thoughts passing through your mind?
I’ve talked to many people over the years, and it is still a source of puzzlement to me how majority have said they do not reflect on their thoughts.
In other words, the hundreds, or even thousands of thoughts going through their minds are not analyzed. Very few people wonder what kind of energy they’re radiating out to the Universe!
Your thoughts are energy. Your thoughts can become your reality.
I gave further details about this in my article titled Using Positive Affirmations to Create Your Reality. Here is an excerpt from that article:
Whatever your thoughts are, that is where your eventual quality of life will exist because thoughts are energy. Powerful energy.
So powerful in fact, that if you keep on thinking about something happening, that something will materialize in your life, in one form or the other.
For example, if you keep on thinking you are a loser in love, then your relationships will be bound to fail.
Conversely, if you uplift yourself with positivity, such as thinking that after a bad relationship, you will find a better match soon, then you will not be stuck in the rut of miserable relationships.
So, to recap: if you make it a point to focus on positive thoughts, negative events have a slim chance of materializing in your life.
And when you don’t think of how you can fail, or if you will fail again, you will not be attracting the kind of people who will be instrumental to making you fail.
You will not be attracting undesirable partners, ever again! Instead, your positive energy will be blocking the way of undesirable partners to you.
Is Blocking Negativity Really Easier Said Than Done?
You may be wondering if you can really stop yourself from thinking negative thoughts, specifically thoughts that lead to attracting undesirable partners. Are you wondering if it’s easier said than done?
If I asked you now to stop thinking about a charging elephant, wouldn’t your mind tend to keep on thinking about that very same charging elephant, instead of calm and uplifting thoughts?
The answer is most likely “yes.”
It is not an easy task to control one’s mind. However, stopping yourself from thinking negative thoughts is not really about control.
It’s also not about fighting with yourself to make your mind conform, because 9 times out of 10, you will most likely fail if you try to do so.
So, rather than fight to prevent negative thoughts or energy from enveloping you, what you need to do is to unseat such negativity and replace it with positivity.
When Your Mind Starts to Come Up with Negativity
Negative thoughts are not really all that bad. In fact, there are numerous times when your mind comes up with the most negative of thoughts simply as an act of self-preservation.
For example, if you hear over the news that violent robbers have attacked your favorite convenience store that’s nearest your home, your mind would go into protective mode.
It would “tell” you to stay away from that store, no matter what, because you could get hurt too.
It would tell you to forego your planned purchase until you can buy them from a different store.
It would insist you stay at home, or at the office, or wherever, just as long as it isn’t in that store.
In itself, such a thing isn’t really bad, because your mind is simply trying to keep you alive and free from harm. Never mind if no clearly present threat exists.
However, your mind doesn’t function in such a manner all the time. Your heart can overrule your mind. Or, they can work together, to your disadvantage.
Your heart may be trying to protect you, but it achieves the opposite, because as your mind (dictated upon by your heart) tells you something negative, the chances of you believing such a thought increase.
However, if you counter those negative thoughts with positive ones, and build up on the positivity, then there will be no room for negative ideas.
How to Love Yourself
To supplant or replace negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones, you need to know to love yourself, as a first step.
I have a short but meaningful video on my YouTube Channel, titled How To Love Yourself – Positive Steps You Can Take To Feel Happier
I’ve embedded it here in my blog so you can watch it for a few minutes, before you continue reading this article.
Here are the main takeaways from the video:
You can condition your mind to focus on positive, self-affirming thoughts.
You don’t need to wallow or immerse yourself in self-defeating thoughts.
You cannot love others if you don’t love yourself.
If there is something in your life, which you dislike, you can set goals to work towards removing it from your life.
An Exercise To Try
So, if you have been through more than one relationship, which badly hurt you and damaged your self-esteem, review those relationships.
- Write down what went wrong and why.
- Write down what your partner did or did not do to keep the relationship afloat.
- Write down what you did or did not do to keep the relationship afloat.
Why is it important to write and understand both sides, yours and your partner’s? It’s because a relationship is not a one-way street.
Two of you formed the relationship. Therefore, its success or failure was dependent on you and your partner.
So, if your partner was a serial cheater, and you tolerated it for some time before ending the relationship, then you are also responsible for what happened, the same as your partner.
If you entered into another relationship, and your partner was also the unfaithful type, and you tolerated it again at the start, what does that tell you?
It tells you that you don’t love yourself enough to stop tolerating the pain. And from that, you arrive at a goal - to love yourself. That could be your first goal, if you want to know how to find true love, which is the kind of love that values you.
Work on recovering your self-esteem. You have beautiful qualities, which make you worthwhile to love.
When you do, you will no longer be sending out negative thoughts or energy to the Universe… and you will STOP attracting undesirable partners once and for all.
If you’d like to find out more about how to clean your thoughts or energy, to be able to focus on positivity, you can visit this page and schedule a psychic reading.
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