How Many Times Should You Forgive a Cheating Partner?
During psychic counseling, many of my clients consult me about problems regarding their love relationships. A cheating partner is often the focus of our conversation during a psychic reading.
Of course, there are numerous other love problems that can come up during a psychic reading session. However, for the most part, it is the problem of infidelity, and how to deal with it, which many clients are most concerned about.
So, today, that will be the heart of this article.
If you are currently experiencing a lot of sleepless nights and carrying a huge heartache because the one you deeply love has been, or continues to be unfaithful, I do hope after reading this, you will find the answers you are looking for.
Can you, and should you, forgive an unfaithful person you are in a relationship with?
If yes, how many times should you forgive your cheating partner?
Are Some People Really Prone to Be Unfaithful?
There is a common and long-held belief that some people are really born to be cheaters.
Worse, many also believe in the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater.”
Do you hold the same opinion?
Is it true some people really have a tendency to have hearts and eyes that go astray the first chance they get?
What is Your Definition of Cheating?
For me to properly answer such questions on cheating, it’s necessary to let you know the metaphysical or psychic point of view, which is that unfaithfulness or cheating would be dependent on your own, personal definition of what being unfaithful involves.
I say this because each individual is unique.
For that reason, it would be foolish to assume you can just lump or “brand” certain people as cheaters, because they happen to share some characteristics with others, who have been proven to be unfaithful.
After all, some believe cheating is all about sexual encounters outside of the relationship.
Some believe cheating can occur without sex outside the relationship, but can just be as painful.
As such, if your partner becomes affectionate towards another, but without being physically intimate, he or she may say there was no cheating done because no sexual activity happened.
On the other hand, you may believe cheating happens, whether or not there is sex involved, as long as your partner’s romantic attention is not limited to you alone.
What Could be Behind the Tendency to Cheat?
When you are in a serious relationship, you would not want anyone or anything to come between you and the person you love.
Still, no matter how you may try to be a “perfect partner” (I used quotation marks here, to emphasize the fact that there’s no such thing as perfection in this material world), you could end up either cheating or being cheated on.
Cheating and being cheated on are universal experiences. Just the same, even if people all over the world, regardless of age, gender, or culture, know what it is like to be cheated on, it doesn’t make the hurt less painful.
Especially if the act of cheating is done repeatedly.
So, what could be behind the tendency to cheat?
There is an abundance of information about what kind of person is prone to cheating.
For example, respected sites such as plos.org or the Public Library of Science have come out with research-based information identifying the association of a certain gene with infidelity and sexual promiscuity, or the inclination to have a series of casual sexual relations.
Meanwhile, in a study made of men on the Ashley Madison site, it was found that men facing a milestone year in their lives, such as 29, 39, 49, and 59, seemed to be the most prone to cheating. Ashley Madison is a site which provides a way for people who are married or in a committed relationship, to have an affair.
And it’s not only men who cheat, by the way. Women have also been found to be unfaithful at close to the same number of men who cheated. This was detailed in the site livescience.com, which stated how:
23 percent of men and 19 percent of the women said they had done something sexual with a third party that could jeopardize their relationship if their partner ever found out. People who had cheated were about half as likely to be religious than non-cheaters, and slightly more likely to be employed. Unsurprisingly, cheating was also associated with unhappy relationships.
But are those research facts all there is to cheating?
Of course not.
You see, cheating is not as simple as it may seem to be.
Cheating is not Only a Matter of Releasing Sexual or Emotional Frustrations
The common assumptions people hold about infidelity mostly have to do with either sexual or emotional frustrations seeking resolution or release, through the act of unfaithfulness.
These are typical examples of commonly held beliefs regarding the causes of unfaithfulness:
- A wife whose husband is too much of a workaholic will become lonely and seek romance or affection in the arms of another.
- A man whose girlfriend or wife is not able to please him sexually will turn to someone who will give him what he is sexually longing for.
- People who earn well, and are the ones providing financial support to their partner (and children, if any), feel they are “entitled to be cheat” because cheating, to them, is simply another way to demonstrate their power.
- People who cheat are often in it simply for the “kick” and do not really invest too much emotionally, which is why the act of cheating per se, should not be taken seriously.
Cheating is not just about having sexual encounters with someone else, other than the one a person is in a relationship with.
From a psychic perspective, cheating and being cheated are actually expressions of a karmic stamp.
That is to say, both a person who cheats, and a person who is cheated on, are experiencing their respective karmic stamps at the same time.
What is a Karmic Stamp?
A karmic stamp is the blot or mark your spirit carries because of a karmic debt.
Karmic debt has been featured several times here in my blog.
For example, in my article titled Psychic Causes of Common Relationship Problems and How to Solve Them:
Karmic debt is what you acquire because of wrong thoughts, wrong actions, and wrong decisions that you have made in a past life.
Unfulfilled or unlearned lessons in a past life accumulate, resulting in karmic debt. One of the best indicators that you have karmic debt to settle is when you keep on entering into a romantic relationship with a partner whose personality type has already hurt you before. In this case, you still haven’t learned your karmic lessons, and this is why it keeps coming back at you.
If you harbored negative thoughts against others in a past lifetime, and you were not able to balance your karma by not righting your wrongs before you died, then you would have incurred karmic debt.
Souls that have karmic debt reincarnate as long as it is necessary for them to finally balance their debt.
Your repeating life patterns are simply echoes of your past lives.
As far as psychic healing is concerned then, when it comes experiencing infidelity, either as a cheater or the one cheated on, what needs to be addressed is not the act of cheating in itself, but rather the psychic cause behind it.
How Many Times Should You Forgive a Cheater?
Each one of us is carrying our own karmic stamp, which is to say, no one ever shares the exact, same life path with another person.
Still, certain lives are intertwined or connected to us, in more ways than one.
If your life path involves a karmic stamp related to infidelity, whether as the cheater, or the one cheated on, it is necessary to understand what caused such a karmic stamp to be placed on your soul.
You need to understand because in the matter of managing karmic debt, there is no “one size fits all” solution.
You need to be able to find out and understand what went on in your past lives, that made you in this present life as a serial cheater or a person habitually having a relationship with a cheater.
Only then will you able to determine whether you need to forgive being cheated on repeatedly, or you need to walk away at the first sign of trouble.
As I mentioned earlier, every person’s life path is unique.
Therefore, whether you should forgive a cheater once, twice, or even endlessly, will depend on what lessons you need to learn.
On what experiences your spirit needs to go through, in order to balance your karmic debt.
Are you in pain because of having been cheated on? Don’t despair! You can have psychic therapy with me!
If you’d like to know more about your past lives and your karmic debts that could be messing up your love life, you can schedule a psychic reading with me on this page to find the answers you need.
Did you like this article? I’d appreciate your letting me know in the comments below.
Here are Some Other Suggested Articles for You to Read: